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Like it or Not, the Mayor is News

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Highlands Mayor Carolyn Broullon

Mayor Veni Vidi Scripto is a blog that goes to more than a hundred and fifty countries, most of the continents and is read by hundreds of thousands of people a year. Some like recipes, some like the heart warming stories, others like the history or the travel stories.

Some soldiers and sailors read it simply because no matter where they are serving, it gives them a touch of home. Women especially like the stories on breast cancer and the little company in Israel who is now making headlines in the United States for its painless easy cure now available for some women.

Yet when it comes to stories about Highlands, there is no doubt a faction of people have their minds made up before even reading a story.

They want to say VeniVidiScripto supports one candidate over another.

They want to say VeniVidiScripto is too harsh on a particular school board member, or the mayor, or council members.

They simply don’t read stories, they conjure up their opinion of what is written, then go on nonsense Facebook pages where they do not identify themselves but freely criticize news. Simply because it isn’t news they like.

It happened this week where some unidentified blogger posted a story saying the news of all the new businesses in Highlands over the past five years was a press release that originated from the Mayor.

News Alert! It was not press release. And it was not originated by the Mayor.

It was plain and simple a news story. The mayor was questioned, of course, since she’s been the Mayor for the past five years. But she did not know the thrust of the story or why VeniVidiScripto was running it at all. She simply responded to the questions she was asked.

Let me tell you about Highlands. It is a town where, though the writer does not live there, her heart still remembers, and loves the joys of bringing up a family there, a close knit community where everyone cared for each other’s children.

top L-R Wallace Hartsgrove, Gilbert Layton, Herbert Hartsgrove, Don Hodson, Vincent Worth. Lower- George Mount, Elmer Layton, Kohlenbushs, Bahrs in back ground.

In the mid 1950s, there were fewer than 3,500 residents, and names like Hartsgrove, Parker, Monahan, Higgins, Dominguez, Guiney, Black, Bahrs, Katz, O’Neil, Ptak, Dempsey; and more were families everybody knew.

It was a town where the police either brought home an errant youngster who had crawled out of bed and snuck out of his house to go early morning fishing or just checked on him to be sure he was ok.

It was a town where the kids would bring dog biscuits to the big St. Bernard who lived across the street from the catholic school. And it was a town that took high water in the street as a nuisance, and flood waters in the house as a bigger nuisance but something that would pass as the tide went out.

That’s the kind of Highlands VeniVidiScripto loved. Sure there were some empty stores, the business area didn’t look too terrific, the roads were in bad shape, the sewers were old and often clogged, and there were no life guards on the beaches in the summer.

Covid came and things changed. Families lost their homes, people whose families had been here for generations sold what was left of their homes and moved to less dangerous areas. Elderly people moved south or in with family.

But Covid also meant people could work from home. And it did not take long for New York couples to realize they could buy a three bedroom house here and pay the ferry or bus to get to New York the few days they had to get there, all for less than it was costing for that one bedroom apartment in a crowded area of New York.

Builders were the first to recognize it, and apartments cropped up. But businesses that were forced to shut down for lack of money or experience simply abandoned their properties and they fell into disheveled messes.

While the town had all the advantages of a spectacular view, historic sites and wonderful natives, it needed sprucing up for the new folks coming in.

That’s when stores that had been closed were scooped up by others, purchased, renovated and put to use. The governing body, itself shaken by Sandy and Covid, wasn’t up to speed in correcting decades old problems, right away. Things like an aging sewer system or unpaved or poorly maintained roads.

So yes, it did take a mayor and council who wanted to improve things, who wanted the borough to clean up, be better, and show its true face, a face of beauty, friendliness, and convenience. And in the past five years, Highlands had a Mayor, and a council, who took the necessary steps to bring its infrastructure up to a level that the newcomers would be eager to pay their taxes and appreciate everything about living here.

It apparently worked. The story is in the fact so many businesses did come into town, so many more adventurous property owners dared to take a risk, the town’s population as grown and word has been spreading Highlands is a great place to live.

And that, simply, is news.

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Ice Cure for Breast Cancer

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It was official at the beginning of the month, but the world got see it this week when NASDAQ put the news of Ice Cure’s cure for some breast cancer on its eight-story high colorful screen right smack in the heart of 42nd street’s theater district!

And because I was the happy recipient of Ice Cure’s wonderful treatment eight years ago, and got to go to Maryland to testify before the Food and Drug Administration about its huge success several months ago, both Nasdaq and Ice Cure also invited me to New York to have my photo taken with the spectacular news in giant letters.

The news is simply that IceCure Medical’s ProSense® Cryoablation has gained the right to market with FDA authorization its painless, quick, and highly successful treatment of Low-Risk Breast Cancer in women age 70 and above, a truly significant development in giving women with breast cancer some wonderful and minimally invasive care.

The ProSense® cryoablation now gives women the choice of this minimally invasive outpatient procedure that destroys tumors by freezing without surgical removal of breast tissue . This first new innovation in the local treatment of early-stage, low-risk breast cancer in decades means the only medical device to be granted FDA marketing authorization for breast cancer treatment is the ProSense cryoablations. 

Not only that, but this little frozen needle offers efficacy and safety similar to the standard of care lumpectomy, with excellent cosmetic results and patient satisfaction.

The U.S. Food and Drug Administration (“FDA”) gave its approval, which means insurance policies will now cover the procedure and performed at far less expense and pain or cosmetic problems, to market ProSense® for women aged 70 and over, an estimated population of 46,000 women annually in the U.S. 

The first announcement of this was made October 3, by IceCure Medical Ltd. (Nasdaq: ICCM) the developer of minimally invasive cryoablation technology that destroys tumors by freezing as an option to surgical tumor removal. The firm is located in Caesarea Israel.

Eyal Shamir, Chief Executive Officer, IceCure.

“We are excited to add a minimally invasive choice around breast cancer treatments and to offer patients an effective, outpatient procedure,” said Eyal Shamir, Chief Executive Officer, IceCure. “With the ProSense® Cryoablation System, we are giving women with low-risk, early-stage breast cancer the choice to freeze their cancer, not their lives, through an effective treatment that minimizes recovery time, and minimal cosmetic changes to the breast.”

ProSense® is the first and only medical device to be granted FDA marketing authorization for the local treatment of breast cancer.

According to the company’s press release, “ProSense® is authorized by the FDA for the local treatment of breast cancer in patients ≥70 years of age with biologically low-risk tumors ≤1.5 cm in size and treated with adjuvant endocrine therapy. Biologically low-risk breast cancer is defined as unifocal tumor, size ≤1.5cm, ER+, PR+, HER2-, Ki-67.”

In layman’s terms, this writer had the procedure done at Centra State Hospital in Freehold eight years ago and has been cancer free ever since.

In fact, by coincidence, the writer had a meeting 25 miles from the hospital two hours after the procedure to finalize plans for a trip to Israel in two weeks, plans that had been made months before.

And to make it even better, when Ice Cure learned this writer was going to Israel, they invited me to visit the plant and people that created the magic in Caesarea, and even picked me up at the Jerusalem hotel where my church group was staying, and drove me to meet the wonderful people and demonstrate the procedure which creed her cancer close to two hours away.

In actuality, they did not even have to show me the procedure. Since it is so non-invasive, a matter of injecting my breast with a frozen needle, I had watched the whole procedure on the same screen the doctor used to insert the needle. I saw how the needle, with nothing in it, just frozen so its cold killed the cells, was inserted directly into the cancerous tumor. I could then watch as the tumor shriveled up from the cold, then went the way of all wasted and dead cells in the body. A bit of cream, a band-aid patch, and I was ready to go to my meeting after the 28-minute procedure.

Dr. Kenneth Tomkovich M.D.
Dr. Kenneth Tomkovich M.D.

Dr. Kenneth Tomkovich, a Freehold radiologist, was so convinced Ice Cure had an invention that he was willing to participate, and invite women to trust him, in being part of the trial that would…eight years later….make the procedure available for women over 70.

To this writer’s mind, it should have been approved for women of all ages, or certainly at least younger than simply those lucky enough to be 70 years old. But slow and precise is how the FDA works and this is the first step towards even more success for physicians and women who believe in Ice Cure and Pro-Sense.

However, in granting marketing authorization, the FDA requested,and IceCure readily agreed, to conduct a post-market surveillance study with the aim of producing additional data in this indication. This study is expected to include approximately 400 patients at 30 sites.

“You don’t need any kind of cosmetic follow-up, you don’t have a scar, and you don’t have the feeling of having lost part of your breast, because it’s all still there,” said breast cancer patient and ICE3 trial participant, Pam Dixon, when describing her experience with the ProSense® cryoablation procedure. “There was no pain. It was one of the easiest things I’ve ever done. I don’t remember any limitations on my activity.”

The procedure is monitored in real-time by ultrasound to ensure the ice ball is growing sufficiently around the tumor, and to avoid damage to the skin or muscle. The doctor may use hydro-dissection to protect the skin or muscle during a procedure depending on the location of the tumor.

`ICE3 study lead author, Richard Fine, MD, FACS, of the West Cancer Center & Research Institute in Germantown, TN and past President of the American Society of Breast Surgeons emphasizes that, “The ICE3 study has proven that cryoablation with ProSense® is a safe, minimally invasive ablative procedure with results similar to that of lumpectomy patients who took endocrine therapy, and has the benefit of being an office-based, non-surgical treatment. Further data coming out of the post-market study should continue to support that cryoablation with ProSense® is a successful option in the de-escalation of breast cancer care in appropriately selected patients.”

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When Life Gives You Scraps – Make a Quilt

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It’s true as legend says… all quilts have a story. And people interested in beauty, excitement, a bit of mystery or love can learn some of these stories on Sunday between 11 .M. and 2.p.m. at the Shrewsbury Historical Society museum at 417 Sycamore Ave, Shrewsbury.

That is when the Society will hold the grand opening of it vintage Quilts exhibit and talented and enthusiastic volunteers can tell you some of the stories and let you see for yourself the intricacy of art.

The exhibit date back to the 19th century, are handmade in a variety of sizes, some with hand quilting, some with appliques, all with their own very private story.

For instance, there’s the Dresden Plate

80 inches x 60 inches, large quilt made by Ellen Preissler for her daughter for her 16th birthday. The “plates” each have 16 petals, and the pattern is so named since it comes from the intricate border and pattern named for Dresden ornate porcelain plates .

There’s the Hour Glass, a 60 by 38-inch quilt hand pieced and quilted by sisters Esther and Helen Carlson. The ladies were in their 90s when they wanted to make this quilt in 1991 for the birth of Mary Beth Bonanno.

There’s a crossed tulips quilt , hand pieced with applique to fit a crib. It’s made of tulips to symbolize love, rebirth, elegance and prosperity for the bay luck enough to be in the crib.

There’s a quilt made with French knots to snowflakes, and another with a variety of fabrics from velveteen and satin, along with some decorative top stitching. And another with grape vines, one with a heart that the heart of the home, a cozy log cabin.

There is no charge for the exhibit, though donations are always accepted, and the Grand Opening will present another of the outstanding exhibits that is expected to stay in place at the Society for the winter.

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BBB – Broullon Brings Business to Highlands

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New businesses including both a Portuguese and Indian restaurant, a music café and a bagel shop that draws standing room only crowds on a routine day are only some of the new businesses that have opened in the Borough of Highlands since Carolyn Broullon became Mayor four years ago.

Add to that the opening of the new borough hall which had been on the agenda amid rising costs and changes  for years and construction of new apartments on a long empty lot on Bay Avenue have enlivened not only the entire community but the amount of visitors who come into the borough, visit their shops, try out new restaurants, and come back again to attend any of the numerous activities and events staged by the active Highlands Business Partnership.

Sometimes, people just need a bit of encouragement to open their businesses in the borough, “ the Mayor said, when asked why some 20 establishments have opened their doors since she has been mayor. “Once they see the potential in the borough, the charm, beauty and history of Highlands, and the welcoming attitude of the residents, they want to stay.” As a businesswoman and property owner who fell in love with the borough when she first arrived, she added, “It doesn’t take anyone long to realize our location is excellent for businesses that cater to the needs of the people and that they are welcome here.”

Stores that were empty for decades, or since Hurricane Sandy have changed the appearance of a main street where for several years many businesses were closed and buildings left unkempt. Each of the new businesses or reopening older buildings and restoring formerly successful businesses not only make the business district more inviting, but also add considerably to the income from taxes without adding any costs for education in the regional school district.

It took Broullon most of her first year in office to conduct her own studies and listen to the residents on what they felt the borough needed most. She then decided on a variety of paths of both introducing new businesses to the borough and enticing older businesses to reopen after Sandy so could go about accomplishing that mission.

Wolf Claw Ceramics

But by 2021, food establishments like Franny’s Pizza and the Sandbox at the Sea Streak ferry terminal in Waterwitch found success would follow their openings. Allegra Law took over an attorney’s practice on Route 36, and Wolf Claw Ceramics and Core 9 Catch Jujitsu both decided Highlands would be the perfect place to open their unique establishments.

Core 9 Catch Jujitsu

Gert’s re-opened in 2021 after having been closed since Sandy and Gianna’s also opened that year. The following year Et al moved to the old Scuba on Shore and both U.N.Owens Music Cafe, and the Farmacie, opened by Rumson’s French Market also decided Highlands was the best place for their new businesses.

Farmacie, French Market

When the ever-popular Girl’s Café closed in 2024 when the Hartsgrove sisters decided to retire or take life a little easier, the Highlands Café with it homemade ice creams and other delicacies continued to fill the bill for breakfast and lunch. Bistro Iberia, Saltwater Social, which had also been empty since Sandy and construction of the Gipper Way Apartments got underway on the lot that had been empty for 40 years and the street behind it was created and named for Gipper O’Neil, a beloved longtime resident and father of a former mayor.

During the pasts year, it’s been busy and unique for Bay Avenue as the borough became one of the first in the Bayshore to open a cannabis business after the Honorable Plant met all the stiff specifications of both the state and the borough and opened in another building that had been closed since Sandy. The Honorable Plant was welcomed in the borough even before the additional money it brings in started , because of its added vivid exterior murals, in a shore related theme, cleanliness and ample parking for the shop run by one of the most respected leaders in the cannabis field.

Gems opened in the former Katz Confectionery, one family business following another, and was an immediate hit from early morning to mid-afternoon every day of the week. Most recently Not 2 Shabby opened its much needed and most unusual thrift shop where the Farmacie had been and Sea & Sand brought a highly reputable Indian restaurant to another site which had been vacant for 25 years.

There’s no doubt about it,” Broullon said when asked about all the new businesses in town. “People know a good thing when they see it, business owners want to be profitable, but also be a part of a community, and all of these different business owners cold see the value of having their establishments in a borough that appreciates quality with a home-town feeling.”

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Write In Options for BOE

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With only one Highlands resident filing for the two seats up for election to the Henry Hudson Regional School Board next week, it is certain that at least one write-in voter will be named to the board for the full three year term.

Board Member Gena Melnyk

Regina Melnyk is not seeking to run again as her term expires this year, leaving a vacancy on the board. Incumbent Alyson Burel’s term is also up and she is seeking another term on the board.

Board President Richard Colangelo

In Atlantic Highlands, where only Board President Richard Coangelo’s term is up for election, he is being opposed for the seat by Jason Chabak, owner of the Highlander Bike Shop in Atlantic Highlands.

In Highlands, at least two persons have indicated their interest in being elected to one of the terms for a Highlands representative to replace Melnyk.

Both Meryl Christie and Robert Fierro have each indicated they would like to be a member of the board and have indicated her interest in being the write-in candidate.

Fierro, who lives on Highland Avenue has been a borough resident for more than ten years, and would like to serve. He has met with numerous people at various events, and handed out business cards showing not only his interest but his recent strong efforts to make his name known and his positions made known on some of the issues that will face the full board in the coming years.

Rebecca Wells mayoral candidate

Combining possibly more changes with this new board, which was just established in July when the two towns formed a regional district from Prek-12, should incumbent board member Rebecca Wells be successful in her bid to be Highlands mayor, a seat currently held by Mayor Carolyn Broullon who is also seeking re-election, Wells would step down from the school board to take on the mayoral position in January. That would leave an opening on the school board which would then be determined in a special election.

Current Highlands Mayor, Carolyn Broullon

Similarly, in Atlantic Highlands, should Board member Justin Thomas be successful in his bid, along with Laura Hesse to become the only Republicans on the Mayor and Council in that borough,he would have to step down from the board and be replaced in the same manner.

In the Highlands unwritten contest for a second seat on the board of education,
Fierro and his wife Melissa have two daughters, one at Henry Hudson and one in the Highlands elementary school.

The write-in candidate first became aware of this area of the Bayshore when his family lived in Clifton during his growing up years and his grandmother brought the family for day trips to both Sandy Hook and Bahrs Restaurant.

Never having run for public office in the past, but interested in the borough and the school system, as well as disappointed there were not two candidates for the seats available, Fierro said he decided to run himself, following his belief the two towns should have their proper representation at all board meetings. By current law, Highlands has five members, Atlantic Highlands four members, on the full board.

Fierro said he loves the current momentum in Highlands and wants to see it continue, and at the same time he is impressed with the education both his daughters are receiving in the local school district, citing the excellence of the music program for those who want to pursue that or any of the other arts.

At the same time, he recognizes that as a new board member he has a lot to learn and for that reason would not step into an “activist role” but would rather bring to the board “ a curious, respectful, and professional energy to help our community understand all the issues, from all angles.” He added that he would also like “bring a little stability and positivity to the proceedings; in the past, we’ve had too much turnover with less than committed board members and various resignations,” though he declined to cite any specific former members.

While he is aware that Sea Bright becoming part of the regional district is a current issue,, and one under litigation at the Supreme Court level because of towns outside the Bayshore appealing lower court decisions that Sea Bright could make a choice, Fierro said “I love Sea Bright! I think the municipality would be a great addition to our district, and I’d love to see my daughters reunited with friends they met at the Sandy Hook Child Care Center. Like any thorough public servant, I want to make sure it’s feasible and fair for the towns and doesn’t put any burden or take away any programming from our students. I’m keeping an eye on the Supreme Court case and interested in seeing how it plays out. “

At the same time, he loves the close-knit “private school feel” and sees it and its teachers as the district’s best asset. “In Highlands especially, the kids all know each other, and I love knowing that I’ll recognize the kids around town (and knowing that friendly faces have an eye on my kids as they venture out).” On a lighter note, he conceded “The ocean view from the school doesn’t hurt – I remind my children all the time how lucky they are to grow up in such a beautiful place.”

On another issue certain to become more visible and talked about in the coming months, Fierro said “I’ve heard the conversations about combining the towns’ children for a set elementary and middle school, and I’m all for it.” However, he added, “I know that this would require a large amount of construction to retrofit a school for the lower grades as well as the requirements of lockers, etc. from the higher grade standpoint. While I’d love to maybe add it to strategic planning, I’m not sure if the community is ready for such a large financial undertaking at this time.”

He would prefer, he thinks that an exploratory committee, and eventually a plan to present to the voters of Highlands, precede any major change. He would be a ready volunteer to assist in bringing the matter to these things,, and would also “love to encourage as much cross-activities between the schools as possible” in the meantime.

Seeing the situation as a parent, Fierro said, “having just had a 6th grader at Highlands Elementary School, it was very evident in the last year that she was much more aligned with her friends and teammates making up the 7th and 8th grade classes up at Hudson than with the 3 year olds walking the halls of HES. I’m curious to see the results of the survey and see where other families stand.”

Eager to know more and delve move into the history of the borough throughout the century and before, Fierro said he has learned exciting history about his own home which he relishes, and believes because of his vested interest in the success of its school, and his wish to keep Highlands a place where families can afford to settle and stay as he and his family intend to do, “I can promise to have those be my guiding principles on the board.”

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ICE is Cold – Atlantic has Warm Hearts

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ICE Overcome with emotion and gratitude for the more than 100 men, women and children who turned out in support of his brother, Ruberto, the popular Emilio Vicens, owner of Emilio’s Restaurant on Center Avenue, Atlantic Highlands, thanked the crowd and told them “this makes me want to be more generous than ever to all of you.”

Former Atlantic Highlands Council member Steve Boracchia

The crowd gathered Monday afternoon at Veterans Park opposite Atlantic Highlands Borough Hall after Steve Boracchia learned Emilio’s brother, Ruberto, a long-time chef at Emilio’s and other restaurants in the borough, had been detained by ICE when he was in a car with another man whom ICE was apparently tracking.

Boracchia, former Republican councilman, turned to Mayor Lori Hohenleitner for assistance in bringing Ruberto back home. The mayor reached out to Congressman Frank Pallone, Middletown Mayor Tony Perry since Roberto lives in Belford, and Kerry Kennedy, a friend who is a strategist with the non-profit American Friends Community Service.

The mayor also started a Go Fund Me page to retain legal advice for Ruberto, a fund that raised more than $40,000 in the first 48 hours. She also began arrangements for the Veterans Park event so the people of the area could show support for the Vicens family.

With elementary school age children sprawled across sheets on the grass designing and making signs calling for Ruberto to be free, scores of adults of all ages, some with canes and elderly, gathered to show their concern for Ruberto and their desire to send letters appealing to the court to recognize his contributions to the borough and its residents over many years.

Boracchia opened the brief ceremony with the Pledge of Allegiance to the flag, after being introduced by Hohenleitner who thanked him for including her and noting the event was not anything political, simply “the heart of our community.” Saying how proud she was of the community, the mayor thanked Borrichia as a partner in this incident, describing the US Naval Academy graduate as “a really good guy.”

Boracchia said he first learned from Emilio about his brother being taken by ICE after he was in a vehicle with another employee who apparently was wanted by ICE for failing to have proper identification papers.

He recalled how kind both Emilio and Ruberto have always been to children and families, and how much a part of the community they are. Saying he has known Ruberto for more than ten years, he recognized the power of strength in numbers and thanked the mayor for responding to his call for assistance, saying she also brought the matter to the attention of the Governor’s office as well as the others. While praising Ruberto as a hard worker, a family man, loving father, and a dear friend, and praising the funds that have been made to help restore him to his family and the borough, Boracchia also reminded those in attendance their generosity might also be helpful to the many Coast Guard men and women as well as Navy personnel stationed both at Sandy Hook and NWS Earle, who will not be receiving paychecks this week and may also be in need of assistance.

Boracchia noted while he does not have all the details about Ruberto’s detainment, he knows his papers are in order and thanked all for their concern and prayers that he would return to his family soon.

Kennedy, who is active with the AFSC, urged everyone to stand together and with dignity support the Vicens family. She thanked all for the cards of support the family has also received.

The American Friends Community Service was established in 1917 by a group of Quaker friends and is a Nobel Prize winning organization for the work it has done. Today, it continues to bring together people of all faiths and backgrounds to challenge injustice and build peace around the globe.

Atlantic Highlands NJ Mayor, Lori Hohenleitner

Hohenleitner announced a group will be going to Delaney Hall in Newark where Ruberto is currently being held and will be meeting at the Yacht Harbor at 12:30 for a safety briefing before going to Newark. She also urged everyone to write Judge Catherine Sweeney Hayden, the senior US district judge of the US District Court and express their thoughts on Ruberto and the contributions he continues to make to his community.

The most emotional talks of the afternoon were by Emilio and two daughters, who spoke of their love for his brother and his family. In response to the crowd’s sincerity in agreeing with the mayor he is the most generous person they know, the restaurant owner said he was overwhelmed and enjoys cooking. “I put a lot of food on the plate because I want everyone to eat everything,” he said, trying to bring some light moments to the afternoon, “and I want to be sure they eat everything I give them because I don’t want to hire a dishwasher,” he concluded to laughter and applause.

Emilio’s daughters Isabella and Maria, simply tried to help each other through thanks and appreciation to the crowd in explaining their affection for and concern for their Uncle Ruberto.

After the event ended, scores of adults lined the park along First Avenue, holding their sings about freedom, support for immigrants and justice for all, responding to the beeping of cars in support with cheers and thanks for more than an hour during the normal commuter rush hours from Sea Streak ferry.

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The Hardest Part About Life Post-Cancer

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With some of my nine grandchildren living the country and not being able to see them as often as I’d like, it’s always so nice to see their many talents, whether they are working hard to continue to improve their lives or simply working hard to overcome some bad things that have happened in the past. What is really wonderful, though, is seeing how strong and brave these ‘children’ are and how hard they have worked to overcome tragedies.

First among these is Rhianna!

Rhianna has overcome a ferocious case of cancer the impacts of which kept coming back and trying to beat her before realizing she is too strong and too determined to let that happen. This vivacious young woman not only fought cancer, accepted the setbacks it created in her own life, but also wrote about it for her own blog as a means of helping others and showing others that no matter what the odds, no matter what the setbacks,, a strong young woman can achieve success.

There’s something else in Rhianna’s story that also makes me happy. Like her father and her aunt, and probably some of her cousins, and me, her grandmother. Rhianna has inherited her great grandfather’s talent for writing.

Vincent de Paul Slavin died long before any of his grandchildren could meet him, let alone great grandchildren. But they all grew up knowing he was a writer, a journalist, a man who would go to any lengths to get the truth, present it from all sides,, and write it in a way that others would profit from the knowledge.

Rhianna has done that the best

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The hardest part about life post-cancer? Honestly… everything. No one talks about what life really looks like after cancer. And when they do, it’s something trivial, “you won’t have libido” or some other superficial worry. Let me tell you, when you get diagnosed with stage 2b invasive ductal carcinoma wrapped in DCIS that has reached your lymph nodes, and you have a baby waiting in the next room for you, your libido is the last thing on your mind.

Cancer thrusts you immediately into overdrive. But here’s the thing: after cancer, the trauma lingers in ways you can’t predict. You never know what will trigger memories of that battle, or when it will hit you like it’s happening all over again.

Hi, I’m Mrs. ST, Mrs. Sweet Tea, Mrs. Trujillo… or just Rhianna. Five years ago, at 25, I was diagnosed with cancer. Six days after my 26th birthday, I started chemo. If you know anything about health insurance, I paid four premiums in 12 months. It was a time of financial and emotional devastation, ending in massive debt, because cancer is expensive.

Here are the top three things that are hard, and nobody talks about:

  1. Friendships change. You feel older than your peers, yet younger than anyone who has been through cancer. People expect you to “be fine now,” or they see your exterior and think you must be healed.

  2. Fear and trauma linger. The fear of it returning, the emotional processing, the sleepless nights. It never fully leaves.

  3. Grieving the life you lost. The person you were, the career you dreamed of, the milestones you imagined. Gone, reshaped by this battle.

After chemo, after standing on death’s door, trying not to lose yourself entirely, I realized there is no going back. I grieve the woman I could have been. But I also know that God has a plan for me. Jeremiah 29:11 says, “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Even when the path isn’t what I expected, He has given me life — life to see my child grow, to teach him, and to love fully.

Let me set the scene: It’s September 11th, 2020. The world had shut down, and I was going under for a double mastectomy and reconstruction. I woke up hours later to discover my cancer was more advanced than anyone had realized. Stage 2b invasive ductal carcinoma. Years of pleading for help, ignored by doctors, led to this moment. And yet… I survived. I was alive. I could still see my child grow. I could still fight.

Five years later, the battle continues. The “magic” drugs that kept me alive have left lasting effects: leg pain, swelling, fatigue, headaches, body aches, poor circulation, brain fog. These side effects make it difficult to work, to teach, to live fully. I am medicated, tired, and adjusting to a life I didn’t plan — but I’m still here.

The medications I’m on include:

  • Anastrozole

  • Zoledex

  • Lupron

  • Herceptin

  • Perjeta

  • Steroids

  • Antibiotics

Even with all of this, I am profoundly grateful. My faith has been my anchor. Romans 8:28 reminds us, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.” Cancer changed me, yes, but it also brought me closer to God and to the person I am meant to be now.

Every day, I grieve the life I could have had. Every day, I choose to see the life I do have as a gift. I am grateful for the women He has placed in my life, the love of my child, and the opportunity to share my story, messy, raw, and real, with you.

Life after cancer isn’t what anyone expects. It’s harder than anyone warns you.But it is also filled with grace, faith, and a deeper appreciation for every single day we are given.

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Always Here and Ready to Meet

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Always Highlands Mayor Carolyn Broullon can cite a number of ways in which she has helped Highlands residents and would continue to do on a daily basis if re-elected next month to another four year term as Mayor.

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Highlands Mayor Carolyn Broullon

But to those residents who want an answer right away, want something researched, or simply want to feel important and know someone is listening to them, her response could be summed up in a single sentence: “ I am always here and ready to meet anyone at any time to hear what you have on your mind.”

Highlands Mayoral Candidate Rebecca Wells

VeniVidiScripto asked both Mayor Broullon and Rebecca Wells, a former councilwoman who is opposing the mayor in the mayoral election, a question on how an individual resident of the borough, not the borough as a whole, or a group of people, club or organization, would benefit the most if she were elected.

Wells opted not to respond to the question at all.

Broullon not only responded, but listed a series of ways the individual resident and taxpayer benefits by her leadership. In saying “I am always here and ready to meet” it is an indication of the open government, the transparent way she has served the municipality during here time not only as mayor but on the council previously as well.

When it comes to issues that face the entire town, Broullon does her research and discusses the matter with both professionals and elected officials. But then she calls for special meetings; she calls for the professionals to stand up before the residents, explain their plans and take questions from the public. She only takes action after hearing all the viewpoints, weighing all the information, then deciding the way the people indicated they wanted to be answered.

The retaining wall the Army Corps of Engineers wanted to build around the borough is only one example. Rather than to accept the expertise of the Army Corps, its offer of tens of thousands of dollars, and its ideas, Broullon turned to the public, called for an open meeting, and let the public be heard.

They were, and when it was all over, she listened. And the wall will not be built around Highlands, just as the Highlands residents asked.

When the question of regionalization with Sea right in the school district was the hot topic of conversation, rather than make a decision herself, the mayor called for a non-binding referendum, simply a vote to let her know what the people wanted. The result was their overwhelming support of Yes, including Sea Bright into the school district and accepting the millions of dollars they want to bring with their handful of students.

The mayor listened, but the town, and Sea Bright, have since been frustrated by expensive, never ending legal actions by two other towns who do not want to lose Sea Bright’s money. That matter is now before the New Jersey Supreme Court. With arguments heard last week, it appears hopeful the Highlands voters will finally get an answer. But regardless, the people of Highlands know they expressed their opinions and the mayor listened to what they wanted.

Perhaps one of the primary assets of having Broullon as mayor if individuality of each resident is an important criteria, is the Feed and Seed, the pet shop owned by Broullon and her spouse, Danika, and located in the heart of town at Miller Street and Bay Avenue.

The mayor is there on a daily basis when it’s open. (Closed Sundays and Mondays.)

While she is adept at assisting a pet owner with selecting the right kind of food for a dog, or helping a youngster pick out and unusual toy for his kitten, she is also there to greet ever resident who comes in with a question, a problem, or simply reassurance of some event or incident going on in town. At her computer in a second’s notice, she can research information or direct questions to the proper person for immediate assistance. And she gives answers.

You might not always like the answer, but you will have the most up-to-date information and will be able to recognize the transparency of her statements.

When questioned specifically on how the individual resident profits from her leadership, Broullon described herself as “a dedicated public servant who is always looking to best serve the taxpayers, from updating infrastructure to rebooting our public spaces.”

As to what’s in it for the individual taxpayers, she said “it is my proven record of winning more grants to fund these initiatives than any other administration.” As proof of her statement, Broullon added “Previous administrations proposed projects, but never got it done. Again, I’ve proven I get projects from brainstorming with Council to delivering results to the people of Highlands.”

In the end, the mayor agreed the single most explanatory response to the question, What is in it for me, Joe Resident, is simply “I am always here and ready to meet anyone at any time to hear what you have on your mind.”

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Randy Gabrielan – Historian

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VeniVidiScripto joins with every other historian and so many friends in expressing prayers and sympathy to his family at the death of Randy Gabrielan, former Monmouth County historian and author of dozens of books, each telling special and unique stories of a particular area.

The Middletown Historical Society, where Randy was most active and provide many events and speakers at meetings, said it best in their loving memorial to a dear friend :

We mourn the sudden passing of our friend, Randall Gabrielan. In addition to being a prolific author and exceptional historian, Randy was a father, husband, friend, and mentor. His impact upon the historical record of Middletown and Monmouth County is immense, and he left an indelible mark on our community. He served as president of the Middletown Township Historical Society for over two decades, and most recently volunteered with us as an advisor for our speaker series and as Vice Chair of the Monmouth County Historical Commission. His accolades are too many to mention.  Randy will be missed on multiple levels by many people. We send our deepest condolences to his family and friends. “

Randy was also the recipient of the M. Claire French Award for outstanding work in historic preservation. He was the source everyone turned to when they were searching out a unique feature, or wanted verification of certain facts. He was generous with his time, his talent, and his wide knowledge of Monmouth County which he loved.

Randy is now a part of the history he loved so well.

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Not too Shabby in Highlands

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If you ever want to be in a place of kindness, thoughtfulness, innovation, great prices and a wonderful addition to Highlands, be sure to stop into its newest business, Not Too Shabby.

This very busy little shop, located on the corner of Miller St. and Bay Avenue, is run by the Kailla family, who always seem to be looking out for others before themselves.

The shop is jam packed full of clothes, toys, knick knacks, holiday decorations, jewelry and more, all at prices hard to believe. Many of the items are gently used and collected by the family; some are generous donations by others and are brand new.

But not only is N2S..a great logo…. offering clothes and gift items at great prices, but 10 per cent of their profits go to a local charity first.

The Kaillas have chosen the American Legion and VFW as their first quarter recipient in honor of Veterans day this month. They will have a different recipient for their kindness every four months, with the area food pantries the recipient of their second quarter recipient. The shop is assisting non profit agencies that help others throughout the Bayshore, which is the entire area from Highlands to Keyport.

Not Too Shabby, or N2S, opened Saturday without ceremony, simply opening its doors for the scores of people eager to try on jackets, coats, shoes and boots, or to pick up a toy for a gift or some fun decorations for Halloween.

The shop will be open every day except Sundays and Mondays . It’s worth a visit.

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